14 days of sheer hell

[DDJ]

GWH, I think the time for being careful has passed.

We try to hold onto love and we forget that love is really respect. With respect comes trust, with respect comes discipline and lastly love. Think about your relationships with your children, if you have. You show them respect and they return it to you. You give them a spanking but 5 minutes later, they're laying in your arms sleeping.

These WWs and H have no respect for you, themselves, their marriage or their vows. They begin to resent you for not showing them the respect that they need, until it unleashes - drug abuse, EA, gambling, alcohol. Before tonight, I thought that my WW was spontaneuos and a loose cannon, but now I realise that she has never had respect, for anyone including herself. She could never know what real love was and is.

And don't get me wrong, I was complicit too, never heeded the warning signs to reel her in. This is my lesson. I needed to show her love, for her to fall in love with me.

So, if she leaves tomorrow, I am so much better off. I want someone in my life that respects herself and me. Then we can love each other.

In conclusion, I'm saying, don't save a marriage, save the person wanting to leave. Show them tough love.