Thanks for the advice. I've been thinking along those lines today. We went out for a trip with three other couples and their exchange kids today. We spent half the day with jokey texts which W will have seen as she has chosen to stay in the text group. we had a fun day and this evening one of the mums sent a video where we all appear ( she'll notice I was wearing a new jumper!) having fun. W will have it which must be hard to take. I spoke to S today and he is clear that he doesn't want W involved. I'll back him up but also make it clear that it doesn't work for me either.
