I've just realised that she actually has no control over her life, and never has.

Sandi2, if i understand your various posts correctly, I need to take control of my life, and technically hers. I'm having the same issues with my 4 year old son. He believes that he has control, but I need to display discipline, which I have not in the past. The same discipline i need to show my WW?

The same discipline i have never shown her. Did I crack it - pls say yes!

Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.