GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

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Sandi2:

Thanks - I'm proud to say that your advice is what I expected. I'm going ahead with the basement - because I need it not because it will make any difference to her. In fact she might hate the construction etc and move out - That's a risk - but I'm not scared.

I am making the attitudinal changes too. Since I read your post on Melo's thread, I strive to make sure every word I say to her - I look her square in the eye. That was a game changer for me. I feel so much more "powerful" when I talk to her.

As you know I'm quite proud of the changes I'm making

GAL - that's easy for me. Exercise, spending lots of time with the kids, involving her on my terms, socializing, got my motorcycle learners permit, bought a new suit, etc

Spiritual - Many times a day I ask God to change me into the man he needs me to be, I've asked for forgiveness for my past wrongs and moved on. I'm making sure I don't do them again or trying.

Practical/Physical - cleaning up old messes, catching up on house projects, starting and finishing new projects, decluttering, cooking, cleaning more than I've ever been, walking softly in the house, not filling the air with my voice.

The attitudinal and the dynamics stuff - that's where I need the most help. So keep the info coming. I reread the DB and DR books, my DB coach has recommended other books that I'm reading to.

Am I ready to go on without her. Between you and me - I'm getting there. But, I'd prefer not too.