Zues, I believe he was referring to house work. He complained because he said his coworkers wives all did their laundry for them. When we moved in together he always wanted to separate laundry because he didn't want me to touch his clothes cause he liked them done a certain way and he was afraid I would shrink them
During our marriage counseling we were supposed to list 3 of our needs and then we were supposed to choose one if those needs to meet for our partner. Mine was date night once a week. His was, he wanted me to clean the kitchen floor 3x/ week. (Marriage counselor helped make it more doable as the other ones were clean entire house etc.
He resented me because I was only working part time and he felt like the house should be spotless because I wasn't working full time. (Was a limit since it's also my parents home.) I think he was getting more busy at work and maybe resenting me because he felt like I didn't have it as hard as him ?
This is something he constantly brings up. His mother's home is spotless. The right utensils are always used etc. I did not grow up like this. He was not the cleanest on his own either. I remember before moving in with him I was always coming over and cleaning the dirty dishes in the sink. So it's a weird resentment .
