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[Sotto]

Hi Scrant- sounds like your W is getting pretty frustrated with the situation with your S - and she's looking everywhere but at her own situation for someone to blame or fix it. It's a symptom of fog I think. She's looking at your S and feeling he should be more receptive. She's looking at you and feeling you should pave the way more. However, she isn't choosing to look at her own situation with OM and recognise the impact that has had.

The only thing I would watch out for in the convo you describe is putting too much on your S. Actually, regardless of how your S may feel, it wouldn't work for you having her over for a cosy dinner once a week. And I think it's perfectly fine to tell her that - Hey W, given all circumstances, that's not going to work for me.

I think (as Sandy said) there's no harm being a little more upfront with your W. Still pleasant toned, but specific about what does and doesn't work for you now.

Hope this helps a little and take care xx