These past few yewrs, all my husband wanted from me was for me to leave him alone. To not make demands on him to spend time with son and I. To allow him a separate life with his mother, job, and friends. This was my main criticism of husband. He wanted independence, solitude and productivity (hes an only child and his father was like that) and I wanted a companion and friend to do things with. Maybe I was needy. I don't know. But his big issue was that I was always complaining about this and felt like I was trying to control and force him to do things he did not want to do.
When we were living with my parents I kept asking him to go away on a trip together to rekindle and have a chance for intimacy. His argument was he needed to save money to get out of our situation and that he didn't want to spend money in case he couldn't perform. 2 weeks later he went on a weekend trip with a friend to go to concerts. I was upset and he viewed it as me being controlling.
Right now I am actually giving him what he wants no?
