Yeah... The OM stuff is tough, as with everything either it gets better over time or I'm starting to form the opinion it's our perspective that changes and it just doesn't hurt as much.... Just last night we had a similar scenario and I wasn't happy about it (hearing a party in the background and w all sorts of giddy) but I've arrived at a place it's her choice/her life. What I've learned in my walk thus far has helped some, the MLCr is in crisis and she is not really able to have a healthy relationship with anyone, you/me/OM whoever... So they wear the happy mask because they have to sell what it is that they firmly believe is the path to happiness. I see it as a reality TV show... You really think Survivior those people are roughing it 24 7? When the cameras are off its a different ballgame, they are selling us the show.... My advice... Stop watching and go live your life... GAL The other angle ... Call it crazy but I really see it this way. The A must run its natural course to destruction. Early on in relationships everything is all cute n good, then reality sits is and the way she smacks her gum isn't cool, the fact he is always talking about his golf starts to be irritating ... The more time they spend together the faster the process takes its toll, the A can't end if they aren't together (one of the issues with my w, limited access from the sounds .... I'm guessing OM has a couple OW from what w told me during the TnG) so accept the A has to run its course, while she is destroying herself, doing things against her core values the guilt builds... Stay clear here so that negative energy is not directed or blamed on you but directed towards the source of it which is the A. I had to fake this part, I have a MLC Emmy for best actor who didn't give a chit what she was doing ... After a bit it takes root and you focus on things you can control... Yourself, time with the kids, mirror work, that sort of thing
Hang in there she is going to chase the pipe dream and you have to stay clear
