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[CWOL]

Yes, it was actually quite pleasant weekend except for the fact that she would snap at me for little things here and there, and make snide comments at times. But those are not unusual from even before BD.
I think all this legal maneuvering is trying to hit me in the pocketbooks, to punish me for exposing her EA to her family and friends.

[CWOL]

My WW's L is asking for my paystubs from 2 and 3 years ago. She is trying to come after any bonuses that I may make in the future! Jeez... I haven't received one in my current company yet, it is purely discretionary.
It's sad because in the past, whenever I received a bonus I would tell WW. She would be like, "whatever." Now, why is she so interested?

[CWOL]

We finally settled the custody issues and signed a temporary settlement agreement on it. I can now take my S11 out of state to visit my parents who haven't seen him in a couple years! Naturally WW refuses to go with us. A wayward wife + mother-in-law would not be an ideal situation!

WW's L still has not responded on the financial aspects of her RFO. WW wants to settle beforehand, but her L is obstinate (probably trying to bill more).

[GWH]

Glad to hear he can visit with his grandparents CWOL.

[CWOL]

Thanks. My son and I are looking forward to this trip. I think mentally it will be healthy for me to get away from WW and all of the legal wranglings she's been putting me through.

Hopefully it will also give my WW a taste of what divorced life is going to be like. With S11 and I away, perhaps she can think rationally what a D really mean for our small family. Up to now we have done EVERYTHING together, even through all of her D nonsense.

[CWOL]

Came back from our trip to see my parents. My S11 had a great time and so did my parents, they really missed seeing him growing up. Part of the issue WW had was with my mother, which is fairly common, I'm sure.
WW is still at home, her L is demanding double what my L has billed for the same period. My L said to ignore it. Not sure if that is wise if we end up going to court to argue the point, which will add to both sides too.
WW seems a little friendlier to see us back. I noticed she moved her clock radio away from the MBR. Sigh.

[GWH]

Glad to hear you guy's had a good trip to your parents place CWOL. Hang in there brother.

[CWOL]

Glad to hear you guy's had a good trip to your parents place CWOL. Hang in there brother.

Thanks man.
I saw that a week of separation has not changed anything in her behavior. I am a little concerned that it may have the opposite effect. I saw she removed a lot of items from the house and probably started moving into her apartment.
One of the things I've been told is that affairs tend to drag on by Detaching. By the time they are over, the marriage is so damaged it can't be repaired. Obviously that is the opposite of the DB philosophy but I'm concerned it might be what I'm seeing?

[Vapo]

It's a marathon, not a sprint, it wil likely take months, if not years for her to turn around, if at all...


Stay strong buddy...

[CWOL]

A couple weeks ago, WW found and misunderstood an old piece of paper while snooping through my files and thought that I was "spying" but it was from months ago. But I couldn't explain to her because how I learned that was from my surveillance system... So my WW tells her mother that she feels "unsafe" because of the "control" I have over her.

However, things are coming to a head soon and she will probably have to leave as we finalize the separation agreement. My L put ten days after we finalize the agreement. I am thinking all of this is because she wants to rebel against my supposed "control" over her throughout the marriage. A lot of it is in her head, she feels I controlled her spending even though I never even looked at the credit card statements (they were all auto-paid). Early in the marriage I made a few comments when there were large purchases, but I haven't really looked at the spending in the last ten years as she has not been wild with it. So now she wants to be "free" and make her own decisions, which is what she claims.