God has plans for all of us. God also corrects those that he loves. He doesn't correct us all at the same time, so many of us here see His guiding hand in our life, but scream at Him, asking why he can't help our spouse to come around. It's all a grand ballet, we just are dancing now. Our spouses will dance another dance later.
What has gotten me through my sitch. is prayer. Daily communication with another Christian who is going through the same thing. Emotions of WW can lead them to very false rationalizations. That God wants them divorced, that God loves them and agrees with them, as they willingly break the covenant vows they made. I'm wearing my ring until the day of the divorce. My wife will find the ring in a box on her work desk that day. I refuse to take it off. I made a commitment.
I denied I had a pornography problem for 15 years. God allowed me to see and remove that plank from my eye in October. That plank did help to put a plank in my wife's eye. I witnessed to her, and so has our pastor and other church members. We have done what we needed to do, and now it's up to the Holy Spirit to work in my WW's heart.
Yes, our marriage will be over in a month. I do have feelings sometime that I'm a failure, since the marriage is over. However, we all fall short of the Glory of God. I need to chuck the block of wood I call 'Marriage' on the woodpile of all my other failures, light the match, and move on. That, my friends, is detachment, GAL'ing, and realizing you have a future that is not yet written by yourself, but God sees a beautiful future in you. He already wrote it. The hardships we experience now build perseverance, and with perseverance, hope.
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)
