Offering Prayer

[collin]

Bigybiz, thank you so much for keeping me in your prayers. I really needed them today. I walked outside, sat on my porch and had a heart to heart with God. I asked him why was he doing this to me and had he forgotten about me? I basically felt like a spoiled child who wasn't getting his way and the answers he wanted so he goes and starts to question his parent. But isn't that who he is (our Holy father) and aren't we his children? Isn't that what he wants from us? To be able to go to him and be like: why? Why are you doing this? I know I will never understand your plan but for now I'm hurting. That's the beauty of having a father/son relationship with Christ is prayer is a open line of communication straight to Him. And that is something I am so thankful for. He is strong enough to bear my pain. I'm not.

[SH_]

bigybiz,

I love that you started this thread. I grew up in a very religious family and have had a great deal of challenges in my relationship with God, but when we arrive in situations such as ours it is amazing how this relationship becomes so much more clear.

Prayer is a wonderful and powerful thing to offer and share with others. Thank you for this and know that you are in my prayers as well and he will provide us strength to go through this.

[J5K]

bigybiz

You are in my prayers also. Along with everyone else on this thread. I pray we all heal and grow from our experiences.

[Cherry]

Bigybiz this is such a lovely thread. The power of prayer is unbelievable. I have great faith, and although I can't understand why I'm going through this- I believe God is testing me. He has a plan for us all. I pray for strength for us all to come through this time. And I pray for a miracle that this will have a happy ending

[PacLove]

I too have a community praying for me, but the power of prayer is in numbers! Please add me to your prayer list for strength & patience and that my W will find her happiness. I will pray for you and all those on this board.

[Jb9140]

I love to be added. Please pray for my wife and my family.

[collin]

i believe in prayer. i believe in God and his love for us. i know he loves me and he sent his son to die for me. i've been a leader for the discovery weekend at church. it's where you help middle school kids grow in their relationship and faith. there was a kid there who's parents are going through a tough divorce and for whatever-unexcuseable-reason neither his mom or dad came to tonights prayer service. so, a bunch of the other parents and myself stepped up to be there for him. it was such an awesome feeling and i could truly feel God in the room. i can feel him in my living room now, as i'm typing this out, in tears.

but, dangit...if he loves me so, why is he letting me go through this? why does he want me to suffer and feel this hurt? i have learned my lesson. i know where i feel short. i know i became stagnant in both my relationship with him and my wife. we had a guest preacher come in a few months back (coincidentally enough, right when all this mess started) and during his sermon he said something that hit me square in between the eyes..."stagnation leads to separation".

i know he has plans for me. i know he loves me. a lot of people think that just because God is letting something happen to you, he doesn't love you. the thing is, he will allow you to suffer. that's when you go to him and say, "please, father, help...i can't do this on my own." and that's where i am now. i cannot do this on my own.

please. Father. help.

[trumpet]

Wonderful thread.

God has plans for all of us. God also corrects those that he loves. He doesn't correct us all at the same time, so many of us here see His guiding hand in our life, but scream at Him, asking why he can't help our spouse to come around. It's all a grand ballet, we just are dancing now. Our spouses will dance another dance later.

What has gotten me through my sitch. is prayer. Daily communication with another Christian who is going through the same thing. Emotions of WW can lead them to very false rationalizations. That God wants them divorced, that God loves them and agrees with them, as they willingly break the covenant vows they made. I'm wearing my ring until the day of the divorce. My wife will find the ring in a box on her work desk that day. I refuse to take it off. I made a commitment.

I denied I had a pornography problem for 15 years. God allowed me to see and remove that plank from my eye in October. That plank did help to put a plank in my wife's eye. I witnessed to her, and so has our pastor and other church members. We have done what we needed to do, and now it's up to the Holy Spirit to work in my WW's heart.

Yes, our marriage will be over in a month. I do have feelings sometime that I'm a failure, since the marriage is over. However, we all fall short of the Glory of God. I need to chuck the block of wood I call 'Marriage' on the woodpile of all my other failures, light the match, and move on. That, my friends, is detachment, GAL'ing, and realizing you have a future that is not yet written by yourself, but God sees a beautiful future in you. He already wrote it. The hardships we experience now build perseverance, and with perseverance, hope.

[bigybiz]

SadHub: Thanks for your post. I will add you to the list of people I'm praying for.

[bigybiz]

JimKao - It would be an honour to receive prayers from you. I will keep my pledge and pray for you and everyone else who asks twice a day.