You know, my ex told me he was doing me a favor too, by leaving while I was still young and attractive enough to find someone else.
Same here… My H told me that we both can start new lives while we are still young enough. Well… I guess it is not quite working for him yet…
melweb, good job standing up for youself and telling him that he just cannot do things as he pleases and be disrespectful to you and your kids. Honestly, I don’t care much about OW (maybe a little about her kids though.) Looks like your H lost his ability to understand the boundaries. Wow! He lied, he told you the truth, then he is lying again… I guess whatever it takes to keep his A going… I think deep down he understands that he is doing something wrong. This is why he switched from hiding his A to telling you the “truth”, thinking that it would alleviate his guilt.
melweb, I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. You have it tougher than most folks on this board. My H had his Viagra in an aspirin bottle. I remember the feelings when I saw some pills missing from there. Granted it was post DB, when he stayed at the house to paint the newly installed doors (which were installed right before he delivered the BD, so he felt obligated to finish the job, thank goodness for that.) It still hurt like hell.
Breathe and get yourself busy with something. Take care of yourself. Don’t let yourself spin when he gets back home. Good luck.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
