Thanks for your candid reply. No I'm not tallying votes - just trying to weigh all the opinions and apply them in my situation. I will admit that I get deeper and deeper into this sit I am seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and I totally get the process. I am so much more confident then I was a few months ago.
The post you put on Melo's thread was awesome. If I had read that two months ago I may not have been able to truly value it. So keep it coming.
I know MWD says keep doing what works. The problem is I don't know what works. So that's why I'm always looking for outside ideas. My little brain can only come up with so much.
Please keep it coming
Okay, I understand. And, I am glad to help where I can. But I hope you can see what I was saying about some posters we've had previously.
So, about the basement renovation, let me ask you something. If you renovated now, what would be your true motivation for doing it?
What had been your W's plans about the basement? I mean, was she intending to make into a family game room, a guest bedroom, a study office? How recently has she said anymore about wanting it done?
Subconsciously, I think a lot of LBH'S try to say it is for the kids and himself that he does something (that his W just happened to want for a long time), when truly, he is wanting to "do" something that will please her. He wants to have win her favor again. Maybe he's trying to make up for the years he neglected those type of things. Maybe he is still searching for a magic formula. Whatever it is, I do think it is normal for a LBH newcomer.
Btw, where is your grown D staying, since she moved back home?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
