I am right there with you trying to figure out what works for our unique situations. (Or so we think them to be unique) It's a challenge for us maybe, as reading the textbook steps don't always fit neatly into what we perceive is our experiences.
I understood/percieved sandi2 response as more of a caution to not seek out to many opinions or strategies because one may become stuck in analysis paralysis or may use conflicting strategies that can more conflict. Also I love her signature quote about doing what is right not what feels right, and getting results. This is something that I am trying to use as my guide.
IMHO take a few ideas that make sense to you even if they may feel contrary to what feels right and then try it. If it works, stick with it, if it does not, stay out of the cheeseless tunnel.
I know that is clear as mud, but guys like you and me that want step by step instructions may need to step out and go with some trial and error to get results.
Keep up the good fight and you will make it through a stronger better person for it.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
