WAW still behaving angry and moving to divorce

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Thanks V.

You are right, I have not identified that she is WW.
I guess my challenge is that I believe that she is WAW, but I cannot find any stories or info on how to handle the anger she shows. Her walking away came on so fast and without any explanations or anything and all I get is the occasional conversation that is focused on the D. And these are tricky as she wants it to be quick and easy, has no info about doing it, but wants it over. And all of that, and she waits for me to initiate conversations while demanding that she is the one that will file.

I think even my coach is a bit confused on what I should do because half the conversation is me sharing all of the craziness that I am dodging from day to day. I really need a plan and the LRT and 180 is struggling because, I am thrown a new thing each day. I was the distant one in the relationship, but when I 180 and show happiness, that sets her off. If I remain distant, and avoidance, that sets her off. If I request that we sit down to review the needed info for the separation and D, that sets her off. When I spend time with my girls, that sets her off.........I apologize for the rant, I just want to incorporate a plan of action that can help me do better, without the atomic bomb blowing up right after. It is exhausting to say the least right now.

But you are correct, and I thank you for the thread from edz. I will review it so that I can glean some insight and hopefully make some sense out of an appropriate approach that can provide hope for my family and I. Please send me as many other stories that I may review to add to ideas that I can use.

I have to shake the cob webs from the stunning blow she hit me with so I can dodge all of the other jabs that keep coming.
Someone, please ring the bell to end this round so I can have a moment to shake it off and come back out and incorporate a game plan.

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Vanilla, for your support and providing insight from outside to keep my perspective in the right place.