She is acting in true WW fashion. Your biggest problem at the moment is your fear. The day you came on board, you felt confident b/c you thought she was back. You wanted to share what worked for you. And now, she is stepping back and having doubts. Her doubts are sparking fear in you. Fear is your enemy. Fight the fear.

I have written several threads about wayward wives, and I talked about this very subject of where you are standing at the moment. The first link is at the bottom of the page that has the 37 rules. I hope you will read those threads.

I also spoke about counseling, the withdrawals, testing, letting them back too easily, and a lot of other things for the H who has a wayward wife.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!