Christine has put it so eloquently that I won't even try to reiterate any of it, but wanted to let you know that this approach also helped in my sitch too.

Would it be an extreme 180, if when she says do you want some of this, you say nothing, maintain a glaring eye contact the whole you walked right up to her and gave her a firm passonate kiss for a few seconds ... then took a step back and say, "I can't think of anything that I would rather do than with you, but there is one thing that is more important to me and that is ... I still believe we have a chance at a good M together. So I will continue to be a gentleman until such time, eventho I'll be fighting back the urge to ravish you!" Would that be the farthest reaction from what she would expect? Would that give her something to think about?

... or at the very least, when she disrobes, give her a wink and say, "You never looked better!".

I'm getting the sense that you are trying to avoid interacting with your WAW to avoid confrontation. While you need to detach from the drama in her head, you still need to be engaged in validating that she still has to deal with her drama and keep "killing" her with kindness whether she wants it or not!!!

'til later,
KAW