Thanks for your time Christine. You see well, even before Lasik. Your advice is soemthing I generally follow, right down to the very words you use. I also have no intention of negotiating with her attorney until I see a proposal signed off by W--and I will tell her attorney as much.
I really like your idea!!!
The hardest thing for me is her pursuit and the way she uses the kids' health as a weapon and then accuses me of using them as pawns. If I say something, she bites! I say nothing, she says it's the same old Merrick ignoring the problem. And the "blood on my hands" remarks if she cracks due to my presence are just way overbaord. She uses this line with all her relatives, who then come to me and say that I have to do something and leave to end this insanity. I'm goingto stop talking to them altogether. Why don't they take her on a housemate? In my view, there are no ifs, ands , or buts. the woman is sick and needs help.
God, please give me the strength to keep doing this.
idea!!! 
