You already know where I stand about marriages with a wayward wife, and you said it confused you b/c it wasn't the advice your coach gave. So, I'm not sure why you are asking me again.
The more people and sources you seek opinions/knowlege/experiences........the greater the mixture of answers you'll receive. Most of us agree with what MWD teaches, however, some do have differences......and a few are strongly of a different opinion (in case you haven't seen it yet). I don't mind anyone asking me questions, and I will try to answer to the best of my ability. I try to show respect toward the coaches, even if I don't see eye to eye with them on a couple of things. After all, it is MWD's board.
In my threads about wayward wives, I wrote about these issues you question......In the first thread.
In the past, the board has had people who would not buckle down to dig out the information and start applying it. They would basically throw out questions to the board and take a tally to see which one had the highest votes. Some would even go to other member's threads and try to tally votes there, too. I don't think that is your intentions (to see who agrees with this person or that person), but perhaps you can understand. Besides, I have seen your posts of encouragement to other members, and that's great. Anyway, just take this jumbled up post for whatever it's worth, and all is well.
I have had a long, tiring day and I am going to call it a night.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
