I was served with W's divorce papers when I picked up s14 this afternoon.
I am just so happy to have s14 back (its been 2 weeks) that I don't care that the divorce has officially started. We are going up north to spend time with my family for the Easter weekend. And it's a beautiful day, after 6 inches of snow yesterday.
I'm doing well. This is one benefit of this Board - I am no longer tied to an outcome. I feel healthy and when the final divorce order comes, so be it.
I'm sorry to read that you were served with divorce papers, but you are ready for anything that comes your way.
I'm very happy that S14 is w/you and the both of you are going up north to spend time w/your family for Easter. You both need a break from the MLC madness. Enjoy your time away.
Drive safely and have a great time!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I am torn on how best to deal with the custody of s14. More than a month ago s14 drew a knife and threatened om. W asked me to come and keep s14 at my place for "March and April". Then in May we would see if s14 would go back to W's place. (I assume she thought this would be post-divorce).
As soon as W hired her attorney, W has kept s14 at her place. W has not talked to me about this or explained what is going on. I asked s14 what was going on, and he says he is mostly hanging out with his friends, who live near W's place. Last Saturday I had s14, and I drove him to the park where he hangs out with his friends, and it was no big deal (its 15 minutes away). But again he ended up staying at W's place.
I don't want to push s14 about this, but we have to deal with his custody (and its effect on child support) b/c of the pending divorce. I need to figure out what is going on.
It just does not sound like he should be staying with W if that includes OM. Especially if he is showing signs of violence. It may be too hard for him to choose between you, it might be a decision you have to make, based on what is best for your son.
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-
What is best for your son is for him to be in an environment where he is supported and loved and does not feel threatened. Being a kid is hard enough with out all that stuff hanging over your head.
Are you representing yourself or hiring someone?
Thinking of you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
