GWH, that is because you still have a death grip on that rope and its firmly wrapped around her. That is why she still can pull you off balance. There is no shame in that, you loved her completely with all your heart. So dropping that rope does not happen overnight!
My WW, would get me to beg and plead. When I got here and learned not to she changed her MO, instead she would drag me into fights. When I set boundaries it she got even worse, calling me all sorts of names and attacking my sexuality. when I did not react how she wanted crying or screaming, she then used what she knew would kill me, threatening taking S away. Luckily for me she did not follow up on that.
Regardless of what my WW has done to me, I have read a lot on this board and it just appears to be a pattern. We learn validation, they attack it; we learn detach light and breezy, they start fights. As only a W can she will know how to push your buttons. She is the only person who knows how to hurt or anger you with such efficiency and brutality. And she will not be afraid to use it.
Sorry to have to break this to you. But its better to be prepared. Think of what she will say to you and how you will respond. Be ready with your validation and boundaries. Stick with your consequences. That was never my strong suit, I would often get dragged into the fights and think how the he11 did this happen.
My best wishes to you buddy!
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
