NYGal: hopeful? Not so much

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Hello all.
I'm not good at taking advice. Now they are off on vacation together. I am tortured with thoughts and feelings that they will fall deeply in love.
A friend said this was the trip they planned a long time ago and since it involves a lot of expense they decided to go. And that this is why W couldn't make her decision yet. She was waiting to take this trip. I feel awful.
Nothing is working for me.

NYGal, I'm so sad to hear this.

This is exactly what just happened to me. That doesn't mean the same thing will happen to you.

In my case, it was as I feared. It went from getting a text that she was having doubts, to doubling down on the hate and making room for the OM in my closet. Yup, it was a dream vacation. Enough so it got extended a few days.

I just got word that my court date is the absolute soonest they could pick, less than 3 weeks away on 4/27. After this I think there's one more, and that's it. It's over. Finis.

The only advice I can give is the same that I'm not managing to do very well. I try to detach, but the W usually makes sure that she reaches out for a quick scratch every now and again.

Detach, GAL and hope that things will work out, that you'll find acceptance. We have no control over what's happening, and need to come to terms that our W's are not who we once knew. They may never be again.

So keep worrying about you, because that's the only thing you have power over.