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Well I told her to clean it up and to walk the dogs. When I felt bad about that I asked if she wanted me to walk them and she said no.


You might as well shoot your own foot, while you're at it. Remember what I said about balance? Stop going from one extreme to the other.

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She is fuming now. But maybe that was the right stance? Maybe some backbone was visible or maybe I've blown up any bridges I've built.


If it had been the right stance, you tore it down when you turned around and asked if she wanted you to walk the dogs.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!