In general, I have decided that who I am with regard to my core values is a loving person. Therefore, I am trying to do the loving thing while still respecting my boundaries. I won't put up with crap, but I am going to be kind to her and loving from a distance. I will still let her live the consequences of her actions by not helping her, but I won't fight with her or go no contace right now. She should find a place in a week or two and then leave when her house closes unless there is some miracle reawakening. Still trying to find that balance of being nice, but not chasing her or being a doormat. Maybe the key is how I would treat that nice, yet annoying neighbor who you are polite to, offer a smile, but try to get away before they rope you into a long conversation.


H:54 W:46 D:11 D:21
M:12 BD:1/15
In-house Separation 2/15
DB started 7/15, W sees consistency 9/15
Dropping the rope and having her leave 2/16, moves 5/16
Reconciliation 1/17
Obviously still struggling