Oh, SadHub. I'm sorry to hear that you got the anger again.

It's all about childish behavior and self absorption for our spouses right now. It's all about what's important for them and their needs, and to heck with anyone else. Sorry, I'm feeling a little bitter right now, given my own recent interaction with my H, but I can completely relate to what you're seeing with your W.

I am working so hard to start detaching, too, but it really is so much harder than advertised. You're totally right - the brain knows what it needs to do, but the heart and emotions just don't follow along.

H: 44, Me: 45
Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
no kids
Walk away: 12/15
Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had)
H filed for D 5/16