In limbo

[Cherry]

Smh, I'm right with you sister. Our h's sound like the exact same person. So I guess the one comfort we can find here is that they are reading from the same wah script.

My heart pours out to you because I KNOW this feeling, I have that same crushing feeling. And it does seem like there's no way out. But I bet you, like me, before felt like this the last time too. And we both got led into the same false piecing sitch where although we had soul searched to get to the better place- they didn't. They didn't spend the time to dig deep into their soul and see what changes they need to make. The lighthouse story gets me through these moments.

They are unhappy, but that's not altogether our problem. Only it's far easier for them to blame us than actually admit maybe they have an issue. All we can do is try our very hardest to protect ourselves and our kids. And we need to be oh so very gentle with ourselves.

What do you think brought your h back the first time? I made a point to ask my h, and he said seeing me get stronger and see what he actually was almost about to loose scared him. And I guess I was so overjoyed that I suddenly had him back things just slid back. It was like the start of our r all over again. We were having sex all the time, passionate, wherever we could. Then I guess that wears off and we get back here.

Although it's heartbreaking that we find ourselves back here. We have the greatest community to cheer us on and support us. With tried and tested techniques to help us through these times.

It's tough,, but I'm right there with you. And I, like you need to work on detachment. Like you say, it's like an alien has just took over them. And there's days of deep dark depression where they will ignore us and push push us. This is when we stay strong. Like a lighthouse we radiate warm light, we are calm. Level headed. And who wouldn't want to be like that or even stand to loose a person like that.

Head up high sister. You've got this!