After 3 days of calm and actually having an adult conversation over the division of finances Wed. evening, WAW started to appear angry as we went to bed. I ignored it, but saw the anger in full force yesterday morning as I greeted her in the morning and asked if she was doing alright. My mistake, but I noticed that she was up all night as she went to the couch and returned to the bed several times in the night.
She replied in all the glory that is her angry behavior that she was just fine and that I did not need to worry about her. I just turned and smiled and remembered my coaches advice. No expectations and treat her like I might treat a sister. I care about her, but her responses and behaviors are not mine to be affected by.
My D17 texted me at lunch as usual to see how I am doing and when I asked how she was, she replied that she was doing great and having a great day in spite of a rough morning with her mother who behaved bitter and cold and ignored D5. I replied that I was glad she was having a great day and was able to put the morning behind her. She replied that her mom just texted her and apologized and said that she was tired, but feeling better.
When I arrived home, I was told that WAW was taking my daughters to visit their cousin who was in from out of town. I said okay.
A couple of free hours for myself was a welcomed opportunity for me.
As I was reading some DR and just relaxing, D17 texted me "I ticked her off last night by calling you to pick me up from the church" I replied to the text "Goodness Gracious, Have fun tonight"
Wow, these are the things that are setting off the WAW's anger and childish behaviors? Is it just me or is childish behavior the theme here? I am struggling to follow all of this. I dropped my D17 off at the church and told her to call me, as I would be at home with her mother. She called my cell phone, that my wife answered, and this is what spirals her moods out of control?
D17 came home and shared that her mother went on a rant how that hurt her and how she was always there for D17 and was her taxi, and that calling her father just hurt her.
I told my daughter that I no longer know what to think about this and advised her to do her best when talking with her mom, but I can't advise or interfere with their relationship.
Anyway, I am so focused on detaching right now I can not wait until the heart and feelings catch up with the brain and logic, because my head hurts as it seeks out the logic of all of this. Now I know how Mr. Spock felt when his logical brain could not align with the emotions of those around him. LOL All I can do is laugh right now, but my heart just hurts. How did I get here again?
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Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
All I can do is laugh right now, but my heart just hurts. How did I get here again? 