It sounds like things are tough in your place, but your handling it very well!! I think your W might be feeling a bit insecure about your R, because of the ILY statements not being said. It could be that she wants to know that you'll be there and still love her regardless.
Is there other ways you can show your love, other than with words? Things that you used to do, or have never done? Maybe a very small gift, like a bar of chocolate or something that means you thought of her when you when out picking up xxx? Could be a 180 of sorts.
I find that when things are getting a little stale, a 180 can work wonders, and don't forget that you can always go back if you find that it's not working!
I hope that your ok and i'm praying for you W, she sounds like she is really lost, lonely and scared at the moment.
