Ugh, I'm sorry Melweb - that's horrible. I guess at least you know the current status of things and can handle yourself accordingly. It sounds as though you handled the convo well Sweetie.
Wow, what OW said made my blood boil! I agree with you a truth dart would have been tempting - "I don't find sleeping with my H respectful." Or similar. My H told me - he hopes I'll see he's a genuine guy who may have made mistakes but knows what he truly wants now - a new family. MLCers want the situation to be 'good' (it's okay she respect you, it's okay I'm a genuine guy who knows what he wants now) - when actually it's bad.
It's tough, but do try to remember she is nothing to you and his problem only. She is not worthy of your time or energy. Would you look twice at your H if you met him right now? That she did tells you a lot about her. And I can tell you she does not hold a candle to you.
Without reading back, what do you intend to do in June? I do think he is cake eating, going to see her for the weekend and then coming back for more R talks with you. Do you think he just sees it as OK and that you are basically 'all but' S now?
Take care Sweetie - I think you're doing well in the most trying of circumstances xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
