Painter, I think that most people don't even think they're cheating. They convince themselves that their M is over. That they are just trying to be supported while they muster that strength to leave the R. Something that is in everyone's best interest. And they need the support because their LBS is abusive and they need to stand up for themselves, they are the abuse victim that needs support to recover. That it's the LBS's fault because they are just trying to get their needs met that they deserve. That this person is the person they were meant to be with, because they feel the way they've always wanted to feel.
And our culture eats it up. Not many people stand up for it anymore because there is no longer a common value system, so everyone gives everyone else permission to do whatever because 'each to their own'. And if someone did stand up and speak out, well, that friend is disposable too, just make a few facebook posts and make some new friends and get some additional 'likes', that replaces the need for sharing life with the same people through it all.
Cheating has always been around. But I do think it will be more common. Not necessarily what we think of as cheating...one night stands, boss/secretary at hotels, etc. But this type of relationship hopping where the hopping starts before the relationship ends...yes, this is going to be very common. Already is.
Will everyone cheat. No, I don't think so. I never will. Just a fact. How am I so sure? Because there are ZERO women in my life. My mom. My daughters. But I don't have girl friends, I don't hang out in mixed gender settings. I only had room for one woman in my life, my XW. Now there is not room for any woman in my life. If that changes, it would max out at one again. That's how I roll. And I would never leave that woman, or cheat on that woman. So if I feel that way, I'm sure others like me do as well.
What do you think?
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
