From the female perspective, kids are an extension of us. Something we created together. Me being a great mother to our son was for him as well.
And from my male perspective, kids were a sacrifice that I allowed, giving up my free time and taking on responsibilities, to give children to my wife that she wanted, and then to work tireless to provide for them all, in HOPES that she would reciprocate by asking what I wanted in my life. Which never happened, because she decided for me what I wanted in my life, which according to her happened to be by startling coincidence what she wanted, which was to neglect me and spend all of her time on the kids 'out of love' for me.
Many years later I am fine with having children and am glad they are in my life. But starting a family was something I did for her and I definitely felt betrayed and extremely taken advantage of. In fact, the D made sense to me, she already had my sperm and laws to get my money, that seemed to be all she ever wanted. That's how it felt during the M, and it's sure how it looked after BD. Wouldn't surprise me if that's one of the reasons WAH was so hurt by the child support.
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I won't speak for all men, but I can tell you that I had children because my W wanted
Agreed! Mission impossible!
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
