Zues, I understand what your saying. My husband definatly feels like that regarding working. He is a workaholic (to the point where it's unhealthy for him) and I was a helicopter mom (to a point that wasn't good for anyone)
From the female perspective, kids are an extension of us. Something we created together. Me being a great mother to our son was for him as well.
I wish we had used a DB coach instead of our marital counselor. I think we needed that type of advise back then.