Hi Inpain, you have a H who is doing the work. that voice in your head is both instinct and protection. You like me have experienced this twice from our spouses. We deserve a medal or do we deserve a kick in the butt. It's normal your guard is up.
Hi Irish, thank you so much for this post, it has really helped me! I ask myself the 'medal or kick in the butt' question on a daily basis! My family think it is the latter that I need! You are right, I think the fact that it is the second time we have been put through this gives a whole different aspect to it all.
Originally Posted By: IrishM
Take your time. You may only have 3 lessons left together but your H has a long way to go. He needs to regain your trust. Not an easy task if you don't let him try. It will hopefully be a new relationship with a matured H who knows what he wants. Let's pray he has figured this out.
Hmmmm...you are right, H does have a long way to go. I don't think there is going to be any heartfelt statement of intent to reconcile at the end of these sessions and I seriously worry and doubt H's ability to regain my trust. He hasn't managed to do that in almost 5 years since the second round with the OW. He just doesn't think there is anything he can do to regain my trust and doesn't see that it is his job to do it! I hope I'm wrong, but past experience isn't giving me good vibes about this, sadly. Still, I will pray with you that he has figured it out! x
