Your WH will mourn the loss of his R with OW if it truly is over.
It has been over for years Vanilla (well, as far as I know, of course) but the fallout from it has troubled our M ever since.
Originally Posted By: Vanilla
I believe it is about attracting your WH back to you. A new R doesn't start because you are a great mother or a wonderful wife. It happens because two people are attracted to each other.
That works two ways, we are attracted to those who are attracted to us. Truly that is the case.
Are you attracted to WH?
This is what makes me so afraid and sad Vanilla - I don't think I am . All I see when I look at him is a man who has caused me pain over and over again for years and right now he is not a person I can even like, never mind be attracted to.
Originally Posted By: Vanilla
So can you be attracted to your WH?
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I really don't know. I think it would take a LOT of work from him and I don't think he would be prepared to do the work. This has been proven from the last few years after the fallout from his EA. He wasn't prepared to put in the work to build up my trust. He thought I should be over it all and happy after a couple of months.
. All I see when I look at him is a man who has caused me pain over and over again for years and right now he is not a person I can even like, never mind be attracted to. 