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[J5K]

All I know at this point is that she is on a high. She is seeing friends and getting a lot of attention from men and she is on an online dating website.

She was brutally honest with me and said she is dating one person and it has only been dinner and coffee. She said she wasn't going to lie to me and I don't think she is.

She does not want to work on the M. She wants us to be great co-parents living in Toronto. The problem is we will take a huge financial hit because we will be in a city that is 25% more expensive than the suburbs of Michigan.

In February she said she wanted to reconcile and I took that as saving the M. She later stated that I took too long to dismiss the D and as part of my negotiations with her gave her S2 to parent. She never has come back to Michigan so the brothers can have some time together.

I was going down the path of being her friend and had my move all set up to transfer and then we went into a discussion that swirled into an argument for 3 hours. She kept saying she still wanted a D. Well for me I saw no reason to move up there then. I cancelled my transfer and she freaked. She has now filed and we are back in the D process and going to let the judge decide.

I don't care about the A she is having but I just don't see the point in moving if she doesn't want to work on the MR. One of us will get the short end of the stick and have little time with the boys and I am ok with that. She was even willing to go 50-50 custody with me if I moved there. But her actions do not show me that she wants to be in a M.

I am sure you have read all of this stuff before on my threads. 5 small boys between the ages of 7 and 2 make it difficult to do much. I am sure she will find a way to GAL up there even if she has the boys. I have some friends there but I was all gung ho to move if we were a family of 7. She just could not wait and a silly argument and a knee jerk reaction blew this all out of proportion and here I am.