Weeding and watering

[mustardseed]

I truly believe I will be able to walk away from this not only satisfied with the outcome, but also with my dignity and self-respect in tact.

Just wanted to add that I think that is the true gift of DBing.
If you are able to save your marriage by doing it than that is an added bonus. But sometimes you find that your marriage really isn't worth saving. The person you married was not the person you believed you married. Either way, the process improves the way you handle relationships in general, including your relationship with yourself. And that is the key. It is so hard to make the switch. To let go. To focus inward and act as if--but soon it all starts to fall into place and the peace is such a gift.

I learned so much. I know that these lessons come in many forms, but it was definitely useful to have a clear motive--I am doing this to save my marriage--as incentive to give it a shot.