Starting to do things right?

[PacLove]

Thanks Sandi... I've drafted an email that basically speaks to being open to her coming home if it's a step towards R but if it's a matter of convenience for her then I don't think it's in either of our best interest or our D's... will sleep on this before sending it to her.

My suggestion is to post this on the boards before you send it and see what others have to say.

Thanks - I'm hesitant to copy the verbatim email here, as if she ever came across it on here I'd be made... I've also had it proof read by 2 friends and they thought it was good.

In a nutshell the key points are:

- I'm open to her staying at the house, it's her house after all
- I want a relationship with you beyond friend's and roommates, but need to understand why you want to come home, is there a reason beyond finances/D/comfort you want to come home?
- we are either going to work towards R or we aren't, living separately at home I'm not sure how it's in the best interest of D or us
- Don't want to send mixed signals to D and also don't want to push you into something you are not ready for - if its' a matter of convenience then probably not the best choice, if it's a step towards R then I'm open