A few more points worth considering... most of our fights have been about the A or the R... when I don't bring up either of those we actually have a great time talking.
Pros: - Daughter is less impacted - she can see changes in me - I still get to see her - Drives a wedge further between her and AP (AP may not like she's going back home!) - Financial
Cons - loss of respect? but is it if I make her sleep in other room? - can be difficult to emotionally detach - will I see more lies and deceptive behavior..?
We talk a lot about cake eating, is it more about respect that's lost? I'd personally rather have a cordial relationship if I hope to R then one where we are clearly fighting. One of our biggest issues pre BD was that I wasn't flexible, I was controlling and always insisted on my way, so I see this as an opportunity to also show her that I can change a bit and be more flexible with her.
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17
