Don't let your H know that you're seeking legal advice and alternative accommodations. Never reveal more than what is necessary.
I wish I could give you better advice on how to deal with potential D talk. I svcked big time at that.
Off the cuff, I can only think of remaining detached, not pleading, not trying to convince him he's wrong and validating without saying he's right or you're wrong. Or vice versa.
But I guess you already knew all that.
Reasoning would probably be futile.
"I am sorry you feel this way" "I can see how it might appear this way" "I hear what you're saying and I respect your opinions. But I do not feel the same way"
Cherry, maybe you could look through the validation thread again?
I guess the trick is not to wear your heart on your sleeve while remaining empathetic? And also saying a lot but at the same time, saying very little?
And to remain neutral, calm, drink lots of stfu juices. Don't give him any ammunition to shoot you down with.
I know it's really easier said than done. I am after all, queen of foot in my mouth.
But you're strong and you have done this and succeeded once.
In the meantime, don't feel pressured to decide on what to do with this R yet.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
