Every time she opens her mouth to you is an opportunity. Thread carefully and keep expectations low.

Don't mind read her.

Keep looking foe those positives and you will find them.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together