Starting to do things right?

[PacLove]

So interesting turn of events tonight... W texted me that she needed to pick up some stuff at the house and wanted to say goodnight to D, at the same time I got invited to go out with a guy friend... so I seized the opportunity and asked her if she'd be willing to watch D for a while. She agreed... I was conflicted here, part of me wants to GAL and show her I've got friends too, part of me didn't want to let her come home and respect the boundaries... anyways when I got home she brought up at the end of her 2 week stint, if I'd be open to her coming back to sleep in the spare room... I told her I'd have to think about it as she walked out on me and she hasn't shown any remorse for the A (which she started to deny again tonight).

So question for the group - if given the choice to have a W who's probably having an A as an "in house separation" vs. "Physical separation" what would you go for?

In house - she can at least see me detaching more and giving her the space she needs and also gives access to D but is this giving her too much cake and compromising our boundaries? or does it open the door? She hasn't indicated she wants to work on the R so I think she just wants to take advantage of the free room.

She tried to argue it's her house too and she's paying for it.