WW, My Addiction, Patience, and Hope - III

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Sandi and Mowgli,

Thanks guys. I'm not feeling like I'm at 100% effort, as some days I feel the darkness, but overall I'm making it. The kids see a consistent dad. They keep asking when I'm going to buy the condo down the street, as it's the best to be very close by for them. I would love to live on the other side of town where I work, where the houses are 2/3 the price where we live now, but I have to make sacrifices for them.

Speaking of sacrifices - the wife met with her lawyer today, and *poof*, there goes half my 401k. The lawyer says it's the *only* way to split up our marital assets, since I have more in mine. I'll get marital support from the W, though, as she's making much better money than me now. Note - unresolved issues from her upbringing, a disease that shook her and left her overweight and without a thyroid, kids growing up, and a newfound independence due to having a great job - all made an impact into the WW's MLC.

After getting really upset and angry, I calmed down at work, and about an hour later I kept telling myself 'It's only money - I'll make more'. I haven't gotten upset again tonight, so I think I'm over it. I might be able to get the money back, if I forego the marital support... something to pose to my attorney to see if it's possible. With D7 quite a ways away from college, the total amount of support would equal about what she's pulling out of my 401k...

I've realized that my stress levels are rising again, due to my inactivity. My leg has healed, but I'm off the program. When you get angry about it, I think I've made headway into starting up again. I'm excited to see where I could land up with my weight. Wouldn't it be a hoot to see if I could get back to my pre-college or college weight? I'd need about 40 lbs more off the frame... don't know if that's possible, since I'd like more muscle than before.

Sandi, I plan on staying on the board for a while. It's really comforting to know I'm not the only one out there, that what I'm going through is common, or at least common enough to have shared experience, like my addictions group. I'll probably get a little more pointed, like TxHubby or Georgia Bulldog, since I think they do a nice job of laying thoughts out in a pithy fashion, just like you. You might not all agree all the time, as well as Zeus and others, but the brain power here always amazes me.

Us nice guys get taken advantage of - part of GAL'ing for us is to add a few layers of the hard candy shell on top of the gooey nougat center of our hearts. Once you can establish boundaries, stick to them, let hurtful comments fly by you without reacting, focus on maintaining healthy eating habits, exercise, and intimate relationships with both same and opposite sexes, I think you're set for a huge cornucopia of blessings to be poured out from above.