Here again after 9 years and struggling 4

[Irish M]

I'm still very worried about my own feelings and struggling to make sense of them. At the back of my mind there is a little voice telling me that I deserve better than someone who cuts and runs whenever the M hits a period where it's not all head over heels love.

Hi Inpain,
you have a H who is doing the work. that voice in your head is both instinct and protection. You like me have experienced this twice from our spouses. We deserve a medal or do we deserve a kick in the butt. It's normal your guard is up.

I pray your H has learned what he needed to be complete and is not still halfway through his journey. OW needs to be out of his thoughts and life.

Take your time. You may only have 3 lessons left together but your H has a long way to go. He needs to regain your trust. Not an easy task if you don't let him try. It will hopefully be a new relationship with a matured H who knows what he wants. Let's pray he has figured this out.

hugs