That's why I was thinking - the don't worry "name" I got this might be an approach. I do fear that there could be a backfire. She could view this me pursuing her or trying to control her. But, I'm not sure how to change up what's going on. As Michele says change anything. Is this a way to go?
She is not a child that you need to "gently remind" her of her chores. You are not her personal secretary who reminds her of appointments, etc. Neither should you rescue her by taking over and doing everything for her. No, she would not see you doing it as pursuit.....she'd more likely just think you were a fool, or get angry b/c she'd think you were trying to take over. She's not normal and doesn't think like a normal wife. She wouldn't appreciate you for doing it. Don't you know as long as you are crazy enough to do your work and hers too, she's going to let you?
She's already cake eating like crazy. As long as the H is jumping through hoops, why would she change her direction?
Many H's swing from one direction to the extreme opposite. Try to find balance.
You have a long way to go yet, before you are detached.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
