Forging a new path

[TimR]

Sorry for the bad day Melo. It is difficult not to obsess over the OM. Mine was with one loser and now another. What you have to remember is that it is not your fault. Were you the perfect H, I doubt it. But you are here which states you are a pretty darn good guy. No one is the perfect H. Happy couples, still not perfect spouses. Unfortunately for us for some reason or another we got stuck with Ws who could not handle pain, disappointment, resentment, or whatever caused them to rebel.

I had IC today and was joking with my counselor how I first came to him with a three page typed list of my faults as a H and man. Now I have 5/6 things that I really believe I need to work on. Of that list 2 are actually strengths (not according to WW but to IC they are) so really only 3/4. Funny how they tells us what we have done wrong and we just buy into to. Regardless, you did not drive her to anything, that was her own free will.