Greetings fellow DBers. It has been so long since I updated. Mostly because I needed to get away from here for a while. And also because nothing was new.
Life with Josh is good. Hit the 12 year mark last week on April Fool's Day. It is loving, it is stress free and I haven't seen him in nearly 2 months since I've been in Florida and he has been working. He did fly down for Valentines Day and stayed 8 days!
My dad has not been doing well. Been out of hospital since before Christmas and went to live at my brother's house. Wanted to go home. Then one crazy day my sister in law flipped out and sent my dad packing. Can you believe that? 88, barely able to walk, on oxygen and she threw him out. My brother nearly divorced her. He should have. My sister Leenie and I have not been able to forgive her. But we immediately took him home and have been trying to make arrangements. She has been awesome as have her kids in staying with him and taking care of him but with a full-time job - it has not been easy. I flew home for his birthday last month and stayed with him 3 nights, caring for him during the day. We have a bit of extra help and all siblings on board but it has been tough.
Dad has a lady friend, Joan. 92 years old but sharp as a tack. She suddenly started giving all of us a hard time and a bum rap to our dad. She was caustic, demanding, unappreciative and complained constantly. Just what we all needed on top of all the work and stress. Colleen would go to pick her up after work and - that time didn't work for her. On Easter Colleen made them both a wonderful meal and gave her a gift then went to take her home and she flipped as she wasn't ready. (She lives 30 min away and can't drive right now - spends the weekends with dad). So - last weekend my brother picked her up and we had all compiled a list of "rules' so to speak. she had yelled at my sis in front of dad (which caused him much anguish and breathing difficulties), she also was phoning constantly and complaining to him about us on the phone. We told her she needed to keep the calls to once or twice a day, no yelling in the house and the complaining needed to stop. She went nuts. Screaming at everyone again to the point we had to ask her to leave. Which she refused. From Florida, I was on the phone with them for nearly 2 hours. My dad was having trouble breathing. Was so upset that everyone he loved was fighting. I told him it was not the case. That Joan was creating the problem. UGH - what a mess! She stayed the weekend. So did Colleen but the tension was great! Looks like she is back this weekend again. It better be better. The past couple of days with her not around - he has been doing great! His appetite has improved. His humour has improved and he has been so loving and sweet on the phone. He doesn't realize it is when she is not there though.
So - on to my ex. My interaction with him has been almost non existent. Works for me. He has not seen Ryan since November. Texted me a month ago to ask how he was but did not ask to see him. Fine…
But Ashley is having issues with him. Recently she needed to renew her expired passport and found her birth certificate had been laminated (by him). She told him off for doing that and causing her to have to get a new one, delaying her passport and causing her to pay more to expedite so she didn't miss her trip south to spend Easter with me. He blamed it on me! (No - it was definitely him but I explained to her it was not done purposefully, just a bit lame). She wanted him to pay for the new one and he refused and got angry with her. But there is more…
I never mentioned this here but on the day we split - (he was arrested for DUI etc) - he was also arrested for performing an indecent act and he was naked on arrest. He also threatened to kill me - told the officers. Well - that all made the newspaper in our little cottage town. But it was off season when it made the paper and few people who knew us saw it. But I had a copy. Which I should have destroyed years ago. But…
Ashley found the article a couple of weeks ago and flipped. Finds her dad totally despicable. Told me she no longer wants any type of a R with him. I told her I understood but since she rarely sees him anymore - maybe best not to say it - just to ease back. To my knowledge she has not yet confronted him but…
Easter came. She and my niece were here and it was wonderful. But she mentioned to me the day after that she had not heard from her Dad - first time ever. The next day she flew home but messaged me that my son, Brandon, had not heard from him either. She was worried. I told her that he had texted me recently and not to worry. I just think his head is still firmly stuck up his A$$ and he will never be the dad she wants him to be. He has maggot's grandchildren now - what does he need with kids???? I am letting the kids figure this out for themselves. He is a total jerk and always will be.
But I am enjoying glorious days in the sun. I look forward to going back home to Canada next week and preparing my cute little cottages for summer rental.
And that's my Update for those of you who remember me. Life goes on after Divorce. Mine is better than ever!
