SadHub: Thanks for your input. I've been doing exactly what you propose. Acting as if she would do what she said she would do. I've not been making a scene, I've been trying to gently remind her.
I'm guessing she has chosen not to do what she said she would do and/or use this as a way of baiting and testing me.
That's why I was thinking - the don't worry "name" I got this might be an approach. I do fear that there could be a backfire. She could view this me pursuing her or trying to control her. But, I'm not sure how to change up what's going on. As Michele says change anything. Is this a way to go?
She obviously is not acting like a responsible adult. She only cares about herself and wants to act like a teenager who wants be rewards after doing what they were supposed to do.
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017