i think you just need to accept that the W may be doing all of the family time for the kids as it is coming to an end.

Stop thinking that it is for you and her.

As far as helping her with her place. Not right now. she needs to go through this. Maybe somewhere down the road if things turn a little then you can step back in and show what you are worth.

as always my opinion

M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15