First thing first, even before you decide about confronting or enforcing is for you to articulate to youraelf exactly what your boundaries are.
What are your deal breakers?
Then you decide how far you are willing to go to protect yourself. Cant this before the first step.
If you want to pist them here, there will be folks willing to take a peak.
Also, now more than ever i truly encourage you to head over to the mlc forums....there are centuries of experience andd wisdom to help with these exact situations.
Btw, a curiosity...you have mentioned your husbands childhood being rough. Do you have more info on this? Was his childhood abusive, emotionally, physically, sexually, etc? If it is something you dont feel like talking about, i will understand.
