Acting as if you are fine, even though you don't feel fine. Acting as if you are a confident man, although you don't feel confident. Acting as if you are as strong and solid as a rock, even though you are crying on the inside. Acting as if you will be happy with or without her in your life, although you are praying it will be with her.
That old saying, "Fake it till you make", can work for us if we apply correctly.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!